Eternal Exchange of Energy
The proliferation of the epidemic of reality shows based on talent exhibition has the root virus in a single sorry thought- the utterly insulting feedback the judges throw at the contestants which in a warped way strikes a sadistic chord with the viewers thus multiplying the viewer ship and the soiled success of these sad excuses for entertainment into manifolds.
Whatever research and literature has ever been written on giving feedback has a strong single message – that the feedback should focus on the actions and not on the person, been given in a way that sounds like a battle plan to together bridge the gap between the expected and the delivered. The caustic feedback and comments arbitrarily tossed around by the reality show judges would hands-down win the top slot in the don’ts of giving feedback. If we for a second assume that some part of the whole drama is not fabricated the irreversible puncture to the confidence of the unlucky ones at the receiving end can undoubtedly classify as a grave crime.
The single starkest difference the change in my geography brought me face to face with was the continuous positive acceptance people here send across to each other- whether it be a warm hello to strangers, courteous nod to acquaintances or a line of appreciation to friends – the instant boost of mood one experiences on receiving such acknowledgment is truly precious.
Unknowingly they are indulging into what is christened as the art of stroking- where we proactively search for something good in another and be vocal to them about it. Stroking has proved to bring out the best in everyone generating an air of real high energy.
James Redfield in his book ‘Celestine Prophecy’ talks beautifully about how the whole world is nothing but energy. Taking it beyond the somewhat bromide version of particle physics he describes that most of the average beings who have not made the effort to tap into the source of energy that is available in the universe, ‘steal’ the energy from others. Elaborating, imagine you are apart of a huge argument with a near one, the one who is at the receiving end is generally left with a low feeling while the one winning the argument experiences a momentary high. Redfield attributes this to the stealing of energy from another person; now imagine the feeling after a rich, animated discussion with someone on the topic of your interest, in all probability it would leave you with an elevated feeling – this exchange of energy can be felt in most of our interactions – what the author calls as “Control Dramas”.
This can be a probable explanation of the low one experiences after a caustic feedback or the high felt after a statement of appreciation. The realization would bring home the truth about the huge power each one of us possesses in this whole give and take of energy in our interactions.
The understanding also nudges us to delve deeper into this logic and explore channels where the rejuvenation of our energy is independent of the actions of others. Imagine the beautiful wonderment that can be felt by tapping into the energy source available within us and in the universe, so that with practice akin to Buddha’s teachings pointing toward being devoid of the possession of a refused present, one day we can refuse to accept and be affected by energy-sapping remarks.
The proliferation of the epidemic of reality shows based on talent exhibition has the root virus in a single sorry thought- the utterly insulting feedback the judges throw at the contestants which in a warped way strikes a sadistic chord with the viewers thus multiplying the viewer ship and the soiled success of these sad excuses for entertainment into manifolds.
Whatever research and literature has ever been written on giving feedback has a strong single message – that the feedback should focus on the actions and not on the person, been given in a way that sounds like a battle plan to together bridge the gap between the expected and the delivered. The caustic feedback and comments arbitrarily tossed around by the reality show judges would hands-down win the top slot in the don’ts of giving feedback. If we for a second assume that some part of the whole drama is not fabricated the irreversible puncture to the confidence of the unlucky ones at the receiving end can undoubtedly classify as a grave crime.
The single starkest difference the change in my geography brought me face to face with was the continuous positive acceptance people here send across to each other- whether it be a warm hello to strangers, courteous nod to acquaintances or a line of appreciation to friends – the instant boost of mood one experiences on receiving such acknowledgment is truly precious.
Unknowingly they are indulging into what is christened as the art of stroking- where we proactively search for something good in another and be vocal to them about it. Stroking has proved to bring out the best in everyone generating an air of real high energy.
James Redfield in his book ‘Celestine Prophecy’ talks beautifully about how the whole world is nothing but energy. Taking it beyond the somewhat bromide version of particle physics he describes that most of the average beings who have not made the effort to tap into the source of energy that is available in the universe, ‘steal’ the energy from others. Elaborating, imagine you are apart of a huge argument with a near one, the one who is at the receiving end is generally left with a low feeling while the one winning the argument experiences a momentary high. Redfield attributes this to the stealing of energy from another person; now imagine the feeling after a rich, animated discussion with someone on the topic of your interest, in all probability it would leave you with an elevated feeling – this exchange of energy can be felt in most of our interactions – what the author calls as “Control Dramas”.
This can be a probable explanation of the low one experiences after a caustic feedback or the high felt after a statement of appreciation. The realization would bring home the truth about the huge power each one of us possesses in this whole give and take of energy in our interactions.
The understanding also nudges us to delve deeper into this logic and explore channels where the rejuvenation of our energy is independent of the actions of others. Imagine the beautiful wonderment that can be felt by tapping into the energy source available within us and in the universe, so that with practice akin to Buddha’s teachings pointing toward being devoid of the possession of a refused present, one day we can refuse to accept and be affected by energy-sapping remarks.
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